How to be a good son or daughter?
The standards of defining a good son or daughter vary among different cultures and different families as well. A good son or daughter is widely considered as a person who stays and spends more time with his or her parents, and makes money to support the family.
Firstly, spending more time with parents is a good way of expressing willingness of taking care of parents. It used to be common to live with parents for a son after the son gets married. Living with parents means the son and his wife take responsibility for taking care of the parents, which is a fundamental standard to define a son as good. However, this quality has changed over these years. Nowadays, more and more families choose to live separately. Parents and their children would like to give more freedom to each other. Living together or separately cannot define the children as good or not. However, a good son or daughter is still willing to spare more time for their parents and help them whenever they need.
Secondly, making money and providing financial support to parents is also a widespread standard of defining a good son or daughter. A son or daughter who can earn more money and support his or her parents seems to be more responsible for parents than one who does not. However, this standard has changed a lot over years. Previously parents had to depend on their children when they became older because they had little savings for themselves. Nowadays, most of people have the fund for retirement like 401k when they get a job. Some parents also have the ability of saving money for future. Therefore, when they get older or retire, they are able to support themselves rather than financially rely on their children. As a result, making money and financially aiding parents has become less important to define a good son or daughter.
In sum, a good son or daughter should spend more time with parents to make them feel loved instead of being lonely. But they do not need to live with parents and give them a large amount of money. A good son or daughter can think about more creative and sincere ways to show their love and caring to parents.
It is true that these points you referred still as standards to evaluate whether this child is a good girl or boy. However, the fact is that not every child can spend much time to company their parents. If had free time, every child should stay with parents for a period of time.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with what you mentioned here. There is nothing better for our parents than spending much time to acompany them. As a mother, I've spent lots of time to acompany with my child. On the other hand, I spent too less time to stay with my parents. That is the problem I face. People wanted to be a good daughter, but in fact, They haven't did it in a good way. You give a necessary reminder.
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